Updated: Jan 7, 2019
Making A Christian Family
“Honor your father and mother, and love your neighbor as yourself.” Matthew 19:19
“Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.” Proverbs 17:6
“My son, if your heart is wise, then my heart will be glad indeed.” Proverbs 23:15
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9
“Your offspring shall be like the dust of the earth, and you shall spread abroad to the west and to the east and to the north and to the south, and in you and your offspring shall all the families of the earth be blessed.” Genesis 28:14
“Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.” Colossians 3:21
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12
“Bear with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgive each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” Colossians 3:13
“How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity!” Psalm 133:1
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.” Psalm 127:3
“And they said, “Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household.” And they spoke the word of the Lord to him and to all who were in his house. And he took them the same hour of the night and washed their wounds, and he was baptized at once, he and all his family. Then he brought them up into his house and set food before them. And he rejoiced along with his entire household that he had believed in God.” Acts 16:31
The Family in Christ
There´s a Diamond ring On her left hand she’s got all she wants And the perfect man But there is something in her heart That tells her that she needs time her futures bright Through big green eyes And she smiles at life a thousand times But a piece of her still missing That she can’t find on her porch she swings
And takes a look Inside herself like an open book. For the shame of secrets kept so long has only brought her down to her knees she falls and sings aloud A praise that she heard once in church and she gives to God her past That has only brought her hurt.
Heaven Smiles Heaven Cries Heaven opens up her doors and opens up her eyes Angels sing Angels dance God whispers in her ear Thanks for giving me a chance a chance to build a chance to mold a new heart in you a new life in you, a brand new soul.
On his porch he swings with his wife And he tells her all about his life. He’s got a gorgeous partner And two beautiful girls He’s got all he can dream of in this world but there is a piece of him that is broken down. His future is planned And he laughs at life He has made mistakes and has paid the price But his hearts not as full as it once was. Then his wife takes his hand And she begins to pray, God I ask you that you take His pain and worry away. And you build in him a heart And soul like you did once for me, And you open up his eyes so he can see. Heaven smiles Heaven cries Heaven opens up her doors and opens up his dark brown eyes Angels sing Angels dance And God whispers in his ear Thanks for giving me a chance a chance to build a chance to mold a new heart in you, a new life in you a brand new soul
And their two beautiful daughters Learn from them as they watch their parents grow. And they open up their heart to God And they begin to change.
Then Heaven smiles Heaven cries Heaven opens up her door and opens up their eyes Angels sing Angels dance God whispers in their ear Thanks for giving me a chance a chance to build a chance to mold A new heart in you, A new soul in you From a life you use to know
Building a family that is in Christ can sometimes be complicated. Stressful even, for some people it's a piece of cake, others not so much. I get jealous sometimes of other people's families because mine is a mess most of the time, while the people I go to church with look as though they have it all together. It leaves me sort of discouraged but yet also hopeful...Maybe one day...I will have a family like theirs...I'll be honest though, for me to have what they have, well, it's gonna take a lot of patience, time, and most of all work.
Marriages between two people well they come in many different forms. Just like people, every marriage and family is unique. Putting two lives together to form one is hard in itself and then after marriage you begin adding children in the mix and you in up with all these different people in one home. Some couples they meet in church which is great, or they are both believers before marriage. I consider these couples lucky. Why? Because they are both heading in the same direction. If they both believe and work at that belief then they have common ground, common goals, and they know where they can find help, support, advice, just by simply picking up the bible they have sitting beside their bedside table and reading it.
For other couples, such as myself and my husband, well I was a believer but he wasn't. I fell in love with him though, and you can't help who you fall in love with and even if you could it's hard to choose to walk away simply because of your beliefs. The bible does agree which path in the end would be the easiest for you if you could choose, but the bible also says to love with all your heart.
Some couples do not find Christ until later in the relationship (after marriage) and that is hard too, because every single person finds God in their own time and in their own way. It would be much easier if we were all exactly the same but we just aren't. So this is why I say it can be very complicating but at the end of the day believing in Christ Jesus and trying to root your family in him whether easy or not, is so worth it.
It's a tricky confusing thing when you have two people in a relationship believing different things, but you should always try and listen as a believer to what God says in scripture about the role you play. As a wife or a husband, mom, or father, God gives us all advice on how we should act according to our role in a family. It even has advice on children and parenting, how we should act, they should act. Just make sure you always try and use your love for God and project that love to your spouse and children above all things, love is the greatest. You may even feel pressure sometimes, but God is with you and he desires to help you and your family grow in him, he is your biggest ally and supporter. Remember also you may not ever be able to change your spouse belief and or ways of doing things, but all marriages have struggles no matter what the belief is, it's not your job to change your spouse.
One last note, prayer works. Pray always for the members of your family, this gives God the power to do the things, that you may not be able to do yourself.
"Another great thing to keep in mind is simply this...when you decide to follow God and follow his footsteps, what happens is your spouse will see it, your children will see it, they can learn from it, they can be influenced by it, and they can also desire it. Having faith, showing love, being patient and kind, these things are always good in marriages and family. Even if all there ever was in your family before was dark...it only takes just a little light to shine, for the room to become brighter."
Prayer For Today
Dear Heavenly Father,
I love you, you are the best father and I am so blessed you call me your child. I want and desire for my family to grow in love with you as I have. I want all our paths and roads to align with yours. I pray that I can be a light to my family showing them most importantly showing them what love is, and where I believe it comes from, which is from you.
In Jesus Christ name, amen.