Updated: Jan 7, 2019
A Precious Wife
Proverbs 18:22“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.” 1 Peter 3:3-4“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:2“When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him--to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband.” Proverbs 14:1“A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” 1 Corinthians 7:4 -6 “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command.” Ephesians 5:33 “However, let each man of you without exception love his wife as being in a sense his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly.”
The Wife of Noble Character
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”
Proverbs 31: 9-31
I am a mother and a wife. It's really hard sometimes being a good wife, like the bible says. Sometimes I wonder am I setting the example of the Christian wife as the passage above describes? Does this passage above sound at all like me? Being married is hard and it is difficult as a woman because we are made full of thoughts and mindsets and views. It can be very hard sometimes to be quiet when we ought to be, and submissive to our husbands when we ought to be. There is a passage in Proverbs That I left out and am added it now and it is PROVERBS 21:19 (Here is what it says...)
“It’s better to live alone in the desert , than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.”
WOW. That seems a little harsh. But wow. Let's read it again. “It’s better to live alone in the desert , than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.” Man. That sounds a lot like the kind of wife I am sometimes, especially when I have my mindset on something that doesn't exactly agree with my husband's opinion.
The reality of this though is I am not perfect and neither is my husband, but I try to be. I try to be what the bible says I should be, even when it is difficult.
In this day in age, woman are held pretty high. It is in our culture now to believe that a woman can do anything a man can do and that the roles they play in marriage are equal to a man's role. But the bible and God's Word says he did not create a man and woman to play the same roles, when it comes to being in a relationship. A man is meant to make the final decisions, he is meant to be the head. But like I said, it doesn't always pan out this way.
Their is an amazing thing about being a wife though and the role we play as a spouse, especially when you follow the scriptures and try to uphold what God has in mind for us when it comes to our husbands and our family. Ladies, God has a reason for explaining this role of ours. First of all, being gentle and humble, and quiet when we ought to be, gives are husband the chance to choose the right path for your family. It gives him the choice to also follow the scriptures, when trying to lead his family. Our attitude can also set the example for our sons and daughters, showing them how they should act in obedience to scripture when they grow up and get married.
It even says in the bible if you are married to an unbeliever, and he chooses to stay with you, and you believe in The Lord, you should still stay with him and play your role. Wonder why it says that? I believe it is because your example of humility and submissiveness is what can set the pattern of godliness in motion. It is God's job to help change your husband, and it is your husband's own choice whether he believes someday or not. But either way, the role of a wife should still stand.
Whether or not you want to act out your role, is ultimately up to you, but as a true believer, the best you can do is try to uphold the scriptures in your household because this is what God would want. Not everyone will agree with this, and some of your woman friends may also fight the matter, and their are special circumstances that may take place. Some wives are forced into being the decision maker.
But in general, A man (husband) according to God's design for marriage, is that "he be the head of the wives body, like Christ is the head of the church." This is a mystery but try and remember that scripture. Do your best to be humble and quiet today and every day. Listen what your husband has to say about things and be as submissive as possible doing things out of love and reverence for Christ and God and your husband too.
Don't you want God to think of you as a precious wife? I know I do.
Prayer For Today
Heavenly Father who art in Heaven,
I am thankful today for the gift of your Word, and the examples on how I can be a good wife to my husband. I am hopeful and encouraged by the scriptures and I will try and do my best to be a precious wife like you have in mind for me. Allow me to be humble in all ways and I pray that you lead my husband to be a godly father and spouse, as he leads our household.
In Jesus Christ name I pray, Amen.