Let God Be Your Best Friend

Updated: Jan 5, 2019

Losing Friends For Christ


Psalm 34:17-20 “When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken.”

Proverbs 18:24 “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

John 15:18-23 “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. Remember the word that I said to you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you. If they kept my word, they will also keep yours. But all these things they will do to you on account of my name, because they do not know him who sent me. If I had not come and spoken to them, they would not have been guilty of sin, but now they have no excuse for their sin.”

Colossians 2:8 “See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ.”

Matthew 10:22 “And you will be hated by all for my name's sake. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.”


I THOUGHT SHE WAS MY FRIEND


There was a girl named Autumn

I Thought she was my friend

We were best friends for over ten years

We were Best Friends till The End


As we grew into adults

We drifted apart

And went our separate ways

But still best friend’s forever

We stayed


It wasn’t until my fresh more year in college

That she started acting out

Yet I joined a Christian sisterhood

And started learning what God was all about


She was so young and wild and free

And I have always been more to myself

So I began to share my faith with her

Thinking I could maybe help


She didn’t like that at all

She told me I had changed

I was not the same girl she’d met before

And she didn’t like who I became


I tried to ignore her statement

Because we had been best friends for years

And I didn’t want to lose her as my friend

Out of love for her and fear


She finally just started ignoring me

In every single way

I even texted her over and over again

And called her every day


It wasn’t me who stopped

Being friends with her

Over My faith

Instead she dropped me out of her life

As if It was destiny’s fate


There was a girl named Autumn

I Thought she was my friend

We were best friends for over ten years

We were Best Friends till The End


Have you ever lost a friend because of your belief? Have you ever been persecuted by a nonbeliever or judged wrongly all because you follow the faith? Or Maybe you have lost a friend because you were walking down a path of righteousness and they were walking their own path and eventually the two collided? I have had all three of these things happen to me.


When I was just a little girl I remember making so many friends. I remember friendship was everything to me, I kept my friends close to my side and very close to my heart...we were all so full of love and innocent to life's hardships and choices back then. I know most of the life decisions were made by my parents, so I had very little to worry about when it came to friendships. When you are young judgements are hardly there, and when silly fights would happen, you both would quickly forgive because that's how important the friendship was to you...Then suddenly as if it was overnight you grow up.


When you grow up and become an adult, after school ends, and you begin life on your own, it's normal for some of those friendships to fade over time, I guess that is because life is so busy all the time when you are working to make income's meet or you are busy staring a family and then supporting it. So many things to do but not enough time, and it begins to get harder and harder to keep in touch. But then again, a few of those friends, the really important one's that left an impact and big impression on your heart, you do everything in your power to keep those friendships in task. You know the kind of relationship I am talking about, such as the friends you can literally talk to only once a year, but you pick up easily where you ended and it's as if you never stopped talking.

Losing this kind of friendship is very traumatizing and it can hurt so much. But when you get older for some reason, all it takes is one simple fight and that's that. It can leave you wondering...why? When I became 19, I still had many friendships from high school, but I also made so many mistakes. I guess I was just naïve, thinking we would all be friends forever...I remember always partying with these friends, I remember getting high with these friends, I remember all the bad choices I made with them, they were my life. But I changed one day, I began going to church, I began a life with God, and he became my main priority, and I began to replace mistakes with blessings. I began to party less and study God's word more, I even began caring less what my friends thought and more about what God would think of the decisions I made...And suddenly most of those friends, stopped wanting to hang out with me, I was not as fun I guess, anymore.


It is interesting, in the beginning of my stages as a believer, It didn't bother me that friends began fading away...I guess because I felt like God was really all I needed. But truthfully, even though we had stopped talking, I assumed because it was just what happens when you grow older, I still loved them, I still cared about them a lot. I actually think maybe I loved them more than I ever had, when I turned my life around. As time went by though, I would try and reach out to them...Just to see how everything was going...and in return a lot of them had decided they didn't want anything to do with me at all. These friends, were not into the same things as me and their faith was not as intense...I know some of them even accused me of being judgmental because I had changed.


Honestly, I think in the end, they may have just decided the relationship was just too hard to keep. I don't fully understand the exact reasons I lost so many friends, some of those reasons are probably innocent. It can just really hurt inside after a while.

It's sad to say out loud, but the world can be a cruel place. Christians are persecuted a lot for their beliefs. Even when all we do is show love, we are often deemed the bad guys. If you have lost friends because of God, it's not always a bad things, I personally think, not every friend was put in your life to be in your life forever. Some friends were removed so maybe, you can grow. It may be for the best but it can still hurt none the less. 


I would never change the choice I made though. The choice of choosing God over pleasure. What is easy and desirable is not always best. God gives me peace through the pain and so I do not think a true real friendship would ask me to stop living my life for him. If a friend truly loved me for me, they wouldn't want me to change myself. They would accept me, as I would them.


"God is so good though, like a true father, I can count on his love and support and his shoulder to cry on. He is my best friend, he truly lifts me out of darkness and I am very grateful. Do not be discouraged, I have learned everything I have been through, our worldly friendships, may sometimes have a sad ending, but our heavenly one, has an everlasting one."


Prayer For Today


Heavenly Father who art In Heaven,


Sometimes, my friendships end. I do not always understand or comprehend the reason's why although I know it can sometimes be because our paths collide. I love you though and I trust that it is all for the best, because you have a great plan for my future and not everything can stay the same. You are who I desire most to please and your love for me will never fail. If I need to lean on you when my heart is broken, you always listen to my prayers and you mend my soul. I pray for my friends, all of them, the ones I had before, the one's I still have, and the new friends in my future. I pray they may also all believe in you in time, and that they may also find the love and peace you have in store to also offer them. May we all find the rest we need in you, God. For there truly is nothing that can compare. Help me lord, to always walk in your ways, and I am so thankful for the gift of knowing you.


In Jesus Christ's name I pray, Amen.

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