Loving Even If It's Not Returned

Updated: Jan 4, 2019

Loving Those Who Hurt You

1st John 4:13"We love because he first loved us."

Luke 6:35 "But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil."

John 13:24"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another"

Matthew 5:9 "Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God."

Proverbs 25:21-22 "If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you."

Luke 6:27-28 "But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you."

Proverbs 10:11"Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses."

Luke 13:24 "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another"

I Love You Anyways

Ever since I was little girl

All the memories

That I have had

Are broken up in pieces

They are lonely and very sad

The ones that I remember most

Are of you treating me bad

I wish my life was different

I wish I had another mom

It's as if your too blind to see

The ways you treat me

To this very day

Is wrong

Daddy use to stand up for me

He use to do things right

But as I grew he

Just stopped trying

Because of me you would

Get so mad, and it

Only made you fight

All you have ever done

Is hurt Me

Abuse, hate, and

Destroy me

You like to put me down

And persecute me too

Leaving me to wonder

What did I ever

Do to you?

I remember one time perfectly

I banged my head against the wall

Over and Over I said to myself

Why did you guys have me at all?

Why since I was just the age of five

And every day since then

Think to myself

That maybe it'd be better off

If I had just have died?

Life is not always fair

You made that perfectly clear

You loved my sister

As if she was a gift from God

While I grew up in fear

As I grew up and the older that I got

All the feelings I could not

Truly handle

God would try to block

But I never truly forgot

You have become

My worst enemy

How can you do

These things to me?

I try everything to

Please you,

But you refuse to see

I wonder how you

Can be so mean?

You bring me down

On purpose

You can't stand

To see me Succeed

Sometimes I feel

Like crying

When I try and ask you why?

Other times, I fake my smile,

Though I am really

Dying deep inside


It's really hard to love you,

Sometimes my smile's fake

And I only put on

So you don't see me break

And while I am being honest

I can't help but question

Was I just a big mistake you made?

That you would

Leave me in such an oppression?

You would think I'd

Grow to hate you

For all the viscous

Things you do

Because most children

Would be full of rage

And they would learn

To despise someone like you

But you are still my mother

And instead of hating you

I try to make things right

So I try to lay the feelings down

At Jesus Feet

Every single night

I also pray every day

That someway you

Will comprehend

That you will one day

Return my love for you

And all the hurt

You have for me

Will come to an end

It was and is a parent's job

To show their child love

My children will never

Feel this way

And the reason is because...

I will never ever be like you

I will never shut them out

I will do everything I can for them

And I will try my hardest

to never let them down

But my biggest determination

Comes straight from my heart

With every step I take, as their mom

I will show them how to love

And what love is all about

Love is not always the easiest thing to do, especially when it comes to the people who have nothing but hate towards you. Why is it believers are told to love our enemies? Why do they deserve our love, when we have done nothing bad to them? I think the reason is because that's what God would do, God forgives over and over again. So How can you truly love somebody that likes to hurt you? To be truthful, most people can't, but the few that can, try very hard to just be the bigger person in these situations or they simply pray for them.

I also think that their are people, who just don't understand what love truly means. Maybe they just grew up without it, or were never taught how to show it to others, but then their are also those who do know what it means and where taught all about it, but they just like to be cruel. The thing about it is, you will encounter enemies at some point in your lifetime and most enemies feel like they have some kind of justification for the way they feel. You may also be the one that is the enemy of someone. Suppressing some of these kind of feelings can be very difficult, especially when they build up and explode.

It is our job though, as believers in Christ, to do our best to limit the number of enemies we have. How do we do this? Well, there are many different kind of ways we can show even our enemies love. The first way and I think the most important is by prayer. When you simply just pray for a person out of love, you are giving God the power to work everything out on not only your behalf but also your enemies behalf. God can do many things in a person's life and heart, and in scripture it says that "Anything is possible with Christ." Also, prayer can give you a sense of peace for your soul, it can remove anger and malice, it can even allow you to let go of the situation and let God control the outcome. Prayer truly is a powerful weapon against Satan and evil. We as believers are in a constant battle and prayer can keep our guard up.

How else can we help are enemies or be a good influence and example? Well, I believe by your actions and mindset towards the situation. We need to be able to accept other people's feelings for us, no matter good or bad. Even if we wish we could, we can't always change another's behavior or belief, but we can control the way we treat them. This means, even if you don't like them or they dislike you, you should always do things in Love.

What does the bible say about how to love others and what love means?

"If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing."

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres" 1st Corinthians 13:1-7

Love is essential in our walk with God, and he is always watching us, we can allow him to use our love in so many different ways if we only will allow him too. Do everything you can today to try and love other people, whether they are mean to you or good to you, whether they are believers or not. God states very clearly in His Word, that "If we do not have love, we are nothing." We are all heirs and children of God and every single person matters to God, and if he loves them, so should we. Jesus Christ is a good example of this topic, he loved even those who persecuted him, so much as he was willing do die for them as he died for also us.

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that"

Prayer For Today

Heavenly Father who art in Heaven,

I am so thankful for the gift of love. I ask today that you allow the holy spirit to overwhelm my heart with love for all people, even those who hate me. I pray for them and give you control over the situation. I ask you to help me forgive them for anything evil they have done to me. I also ask that if there is any malice in my heart towards someone, you take it away from me, and exchange it with love for them. I am so grateful for the amazing example and attitude of Jesus Christ. Help me to be more like you.

In Jesus Christ Name, Amen.

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